Rant, ahoy!

Jun. 3rd, 2014 10:19 am
liandriel: (Me)
As a single mother, one of the things I've heard a lot from the men I've dated is, "I don't want to compete with your son for your attention." Sometimes, they get creative with the phrasing; usually not.

But after ten years of hearing various iterations of the same thing, I have one thing to say about that:


Kids require attention. Require. Good parents pay attention to their kids. My son is ridiculously extroverted and needs interaction. It is my job, as his parent, to interact with him.

You, however, are a grown-up. While I probably really like you and enjoy interacting with you, it is not my job to interact with you. You, as a grown-up, should have learned to entertain yourself a long time ago.

It's not a competition.

I am not your mother.

Be a fucking grown-up.

Either you want me in your life, or you don't. But if you are going to resent my son for being a child and for being my responsibility, then we really don't have anything else to talk about.

One of the things that I appreciate most about [livejournal.com profile] whitebuddha is that he gets this.
liandriel: (Default)
The tree is lit, the presents are wrapped and in their places under the tree, and Mikey is sound asleep and dreaming sweet Christmas dreams. My sister is holed up in the basement after swapping massages with me, and the rest of us are shortly bound for sleep. The morning will come with a promise of waffles and eggs; Mom went all out and bought an Entenmann's coffee cake to top it all off. Tomorrow evening, there will be roast beast. This year, we aren't making the drive up to New Jersey to spend the day with my mother's family; we're just staying here, the five of us, and having a quiet Christmas together.

I love Christmas for the joy in the spirit of giving and doing for others. I love the lights and the music. I love the joy that lights up the faces of my loved ones as they open their gifts. Mikey is full of all the childlike wonder of Christmas, and it is marvelously contagious.

I am so fortunate to have him in my life, along with good friends who have stuck by me through thick and thin. This year has brought a lot of challenges and changes, good and bad, and I've swung from extremes of stress and misery to joy and elation and back again. I am so thankful for the people in my life who have ridden the mental and emotional roller coaster with me and borne me up with their love and support.

Merry Christmas to you and yours. May all your dreams come true.
liandriel: (Sith)
Via [livejournal.com profile] solan_t:

Darths & Droids.


[livejournal.com profile] liandriel: I think I love this webcomic.
[livejournal.com profile] lanturias: /agree
[livejournal.com profile] lanturias: I am absolutely dying of laughter irl...i started coughing
[livejournal.com profile] lanturias: i may need you to call an ambulance for me
[livejournal.com profile] liandriel: I'll need your address.
[livejournal.com profile] lanturias: oh dear that's a question
[livejournal.com profile] liandriel: That could be the most awkward 9-1-1 call ever. "My friend is dying in an apoplectic fit from laughing at a webcomic!" "What's your friend's address?" "Um...."
[livejournal.com profile] lanturias: just have them check each apartment in greensboro, north carolina
[livejournal.com profile] liandriel: Oh, that'll be easy.
[livejournal.com profile] lanturias: that *will* be easy.
[livejournal.com profile] lanturias: for you. for them, not so much.


Feb. 13th, 2006 11:44 pm
liandriel: (Kissy-face)
[livejournal.com profile] tehbartender rocks. Thank you, sweetie. *hugs*

Last night, Michael read the word "horse" all by himself. /boggle

Happy Valentine's Day!
liandriel: (Doctor Moo)
I'm really glad [livejournal.com profile] ziggystardust31 is still around.
liandriel: (Default)
I think this is pretty spiffy. Stolen from [livejournal.com profile] softlywhispered and [livejournal.com profile] fragbert:

Friends List meme )


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